Did you know that some of the loneliest people are the ones in a committed relationship? A recent study showed that 62.5% of the people who reported loneliness were married and living with their partner. (Can I find the link to that study? Nope. But, hey, the internet is probably right about that, eh?)
Sometimes people we love make us feel lonely. They are being dismissive, they have been unfeeling and uncaring, they have done something unexpected that upsets our daily routines.
Sometimes we feel insecure, and it seeps into our relationships. Who knew that in a world of 7 billion people, you could feel lonely and insecure?
I suppose I am going through a rather insecure phase myself. A lot around me is changing…my friend Robert moved to Ireland, and I am missing him. My friend Derek moved to Calgary…I miss him too. My friend Elizabeth is plotting a move to Calgary to live. Anyone else getting the theme of 'love me and leave me' here? Hello??? Is this thing on???
Ahem.
Life is tough….you build something up that makes you happy, and then suddenly, it's gone again. You look for good things, and instead, you find sadness. We often look under rocks hoping to find jewels, and instead are disappointed with the muddy underside of what we've uncovered, especially when we look closer and critically at our relationships. Disappointment can lead to loneliness. But disappointment is just part of the story.
Every love we have will hurt. No friendships is perfect. No romantic relationship, no love is perfect. And it's stupid, and we wonder why we bother in the first place, and we wish that hard ball of pain inside of us would go away. And we wait and wish and we hope, and sometimes if we're lucky, we can smile again.
No one can feel my emotional pain. Only I can feel it. And this separation, this individuality of pain, it makes us unique. It is our story. And sometimes, that story can make us lonely.
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